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Tom is…. (facebook and my generation)

Tommywood is … Tom is … on Facebook. Aren’t you? If you read this column online and are not on Facebook, you will soon be.

The Facebook wave has now washed over my generation, the “late baby boomers.” In the last two months, the number of people in my crowd who have just joined or who joined a while ago but are now suddenly really using the social network is exploding exponentially.

Why? Why now? And what, exactly, is it about Facebook that has become so appealing?

Launched as “thefacebook” in February 2004 in a Harvard dorm room by Mark Zuckerberg, Chris Hughes, Dustin Moskovitz and Eduardo Saverin, the concept originally had a specific college focus: At the time, every freshman entering college received a printed face book of their classmates with a picture and limited info like hometown and high school.

The bright idea was to take this online, adding an intranet communication function, allowing those who signed up to become a friend of anyone else on the network, but only if they accepted your invitation. As universities were now issuing college e-mail addresses only to verified community members, access initially was limited only to those with valid school addresses. Simple enough.

The next month, Facebook expanded to Stanford, Yale and Columbia. By June, the creators opened offices in Palo Alto, with $500,000 in funding. By December 2004, 1 million users had signed up. By May of the following year, the network had expanded to 800 colleges and raised $12.7 million in funding from venture capitalists.

Over the next few years, they expanded into work networks, added new features and applications and became available in many more languages. Today, Facebook claims to have more than 150 million active users.

I first heard about Facebook a few years ago and quickly got the appeal: I still recall spending hours poring over my freshman face book at college, as if it held some clue to my future social life. I understand why college kids would want to be on Facebook and once it took hold why it migrated both to kids in high school and to recent college graduates as a staple of their social lives. But it initially held no interest for me or my peers.

Even a year ago, the notion of someone my age being on Facebook seemed, for lack of a better word, creepy. But that was because it was assumed that if you were on Facebook, you were there to connect with, or “friend” people half your age. Or to spy – should I say oversee? – what your child was up to.

What then proved the tipping point? What changed to get us to take it on for ourselves?

These days, when we talk about change, we’re talking about Obama. So perhaps it’s not strange that Obama plays some part in this revolution, as well.

Last year, co-founder Hughes took a leave from Facebook to become director of online organizing for the Obama campaign. Hughes’ success and the media attention to Obama’s use of Facebook was what first made me consider that I needed to check out the social network.

Clearly, I was not alone, because in the months leading up to the election, I began to get more and more invitations to be on Facebook. In September, I was still avoiding, but by late November, three weeks after the election, I joined.

I read a fair amount of journalism about journalism, and the same sources that had noodged me toward blogging now insisted I needed to be on Facebook. The justification that somehow this had a benefit beyond the social also helped push me over the edge.

So it began – I started with a book-jacket type photo and then switched to a poorer quality, more casual off-kilter shot – more “me” and what seems to be favored on the site.

I replied to the accumulated friend requests I had received. Within hours of joining, I received more requests from high school classmates I had not spoken to in 30 years. I wondered how they could be monitoring full-time (turns out Facebook has the technology to do so for you).

I then used my e-mail list to see who else was on Facebook and sent friendship requests to them.

As my number of friends increased, I suffered moments of moral doubt: Should I accept friendship from people I was not friends with or people I knew but didn’t really like? Or even those I knew but whom I didn’t want to invite into the privacy of my Facebook world? And what about friend requests from people I didn’t even know?

What did it mean to request friendship from someone else? Should I be friending only people I knew socially or also those I’d met professionally? Was it inappropriate for me, a married man, to do so to a single woman? How should I feel if someone ignored my request? How many friends is too few? How many too many? Is there such thing as a Facebook slut? (There is, and you know who you are.)

Within days (if not hours), I learned to stop worrying and embrace this world. I came up with my own rules, which are still evolving.

Thus far, I am still skeptical of causes and most group invitations. I don’t feel comfortable having my friends’ teenage children be friends on my site, and I don’t friend people I don’t know (a rule I just broke this morning when friended by a performer whose work I know). All of which will probably evolve further, with time.

What I have discovered is that Facebook rewards certain behaviors that would not otherwise be socially acceptable – such as poaching your friends’ friends or even trolling for friends among the listed friends of people you yourself don’t want to friend. It allows for a certain voyeurism, an ability to search for others and peek at their friends.

On other hand, it also allows you to find people from your past and reconnect with them, to forge casual relations with people you know slightly but have come to feel you now know better. I have reconnected with high school classmates, my childhood skateboarding buddy and fellow classmates from the Radcliffe Publishing Course.

Over the last two months, as Facebook fever has spread throughout my generation, I have noticed that some use Facebook as a place to be found – they never react or contribute but just accept friend requests. Others use it like a holiday card, uploading pictures of their children or pets. For some, it is a promotional device for their cause, for their art, for their next public event.

The “status update” feature of Facebook is often mocked – it allows you to post what you are doing. For some it is a prosaic account of their daily iterations, for others an opportunity to comment on personal and public events, offering what may be food for thought, humorous, or strange or all of the above.

For others it is an evolving art form – a return of the bon mot, the witty saying, the great line – an art form that stretches from the Greek epigrams to the Algonquin Round Table but seems in recent times to have been relegated to New Yorker cartoon captions.

Still the question remains: Why Facebook for our generation? Why now? Why not MySpace or LinkedIn?

I suppose you expect me to say it’s because it’s Jewish. That in some way, like Nancy Mitford’s “U and Non-U” classification for all things, the other social networks are goyish, while Facebook is Jewish in nature, deriving from the traditional Jewish values of community and of the need for a minyan. I agree that this argument may well be a stretch with no foundation in fact, but what I do believe is that Facebook’s appeal for our generation is that it is haimish.

For younger users, Facebook’s appeal may have more to do with dating and potential hookups, but I find that for most of my friends, although dating may be one of its uses, Facebook is like the iPod of our lives. It allows us to collect people from our lives, and, much like the thousands of songs, most of which we will never listen to on a daily basis, there is great comfort in knowing they are there and accessible.

Finally, and perhaps this is the real reason Facebook resonates so strongly right now with our generation: Facebook offers, quite simply, a way for me to say, “Tom is….”

Tom Teicholz is a film producer in Los Angeles. Everywhere else, he’s an author and journalist who has written for The New York Times Sunday Magazine, Interview and The Forward. His column appears every other week.

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Bela & The Benz

4202.jpgHatschek Bela.

The very sound of my great-grandfather’s name brings a smile to my face.

In
Hungarian, last names go first, so although Bela was his first name, he
has always been Hatschek Bela to me — all one name — a legendary
figure in our family, a celebrated forebear about whom my mother and
grandmother told stories.

He was famous for being the first man
in Hungary to own a car, and my grandmother kept a clipping from the
Royal Hungarian Automobile Society with a picture of him seated at the
controls of his Benz with a little girl on the rear rumble seat.
Beneath the photo was the caption in Hungarian, German and French,
proclaiming “Hatsek Bela le premier automobiliste Hongrois sur son
voiture Benz en 1895.”

The picture always fascinated me. My
great-grandfather sits at the control of his open-air Benz looking,
with his dark beard and mustache, like Sigmund Freud, smoking a cigar
and wearing his homburg tilted at a
rakish angle, as well as a suit — perfectly tailored to show his
starched white cuffs. I also loved looking at the little girl sitting
at the rear of the vehicle, gazing at the camera like a little doll in
her pinafore and large hat — that was my grandmother, Adrienne, whom I
only knew as an old woman.

image Hatschek Bela had a Benz before Mercedes did. That was way cool.

My
grandmother and mother used to tell stories about Hatschek Bela. From
their stories, I took him to be debonair, slightly eccentric, with a
healthy sense of humor.

Regarding the famous Benz, the story
told in our family is that, one day, Hatschek Bela left on a trip. He
disappeared for a few weeks, without anyone really knowing why or where
he was going.
When he returned, he did so with the vehicle — transported on a train
in its own car. But wait — there’s more: Hatschek did not return
alone. He brought back a mechanic from Germany, as well, to care for
it.

The
car was a curiosity in Budapest. The most famous apocryphal story about
Hatschek Bela and the car involves no less grand a personage than
Austrian Emperor Franz Joseph. As the story goes, the emperor was
visiting Budapest. He was standing on a balcony reviewing a parade when
he heard a loud explosion — he hit the deck, fearing it was an
assassination attempt. But someone said, “Don’t worry, that’s just
Hatschek Bela in his car.”

I once tried to research this
story. All that I could confirm was that the Emperor Franz Joseph did
visit Budapest as part of the 1896 celebration of 1,000 years of
Hungary’s nationhood. However, it does seem possible that the emperor
would be reviewing crowds, and that there would be a parade, and that
the car
would be shown off in some fashion.

Apocryphal or not, Hatschek and the emperor remain a good story, and who knows, it might even be true.
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Hatschek
Bela died when my mother was just a child. But she remembered him as
handsome, always well dressed. And he was vain. He was interested in
new inventions. He was fond of having family portraits taken — there
is a story that he gave one to my grandmother. Inscribed on the back,
it said: Who are these people?

My grandmother, Adrienne
Hatschek Saar Morvai Bogner (she married several times), was the family
archivist. She kept a leather portfolio filled with yellowing documents
that held the birth, marriage and death records of her family. When she
died, it passed to my mother, who really wasn’t all that interested.
But I was. So the portfolio came into my possession.

Here’s
where my research began. One day, several years ago, I sat down to sort
through the documents that charted our family tree.
>From the crumbling yellow pages with handwritten entries, the story
of my family emerged.

I
learned that Hatschek Bela was born Oct. 25, 1858, in Budapest, the son
of Max (Miksa) Hatschek and Julia Boscovitz Hatschek. His father, Max,
was a medical doctor, an optician. They lived at 13, Palatinus, in Pest
— an address in the center of the city.

On July 4, 1886, a
28-year-old Hatschek, who by then had become an optician like his
father, was married to Gizella Back. She was just 17, according the
marriage certificate, the daughter of Fulop Back and Jeannette Reitzer
Back. They were married at the Dohány Temple in Budapest (Budapest’s
largest temple, akin to Temple Emmanuel in New York, or Wilshire
Boulevard Temple in Los Angeles).

My mother always claimed that
her great-grandfather, Fulop Back, had been rashe kol (head of the
Jewish community in Budapest), and that he was a great rabbi. However,
when I visited the Jewish Community Center
in 2003, a list of Budapest’s rashim kol does not include a Fulop Back.
Furthermore, on Hatschek Bela’s wedding certificate Fulop Back is
listed as a merchant.

I
found two possible explanations: The list of rashim kol in Budapest’s
Jewish Community Center does list a Jozef Boscovitz, who was president
of the Jewish community between 1851 and 1858. As Hatschek Bela’s
mother’s maiden name was Boscovitz, perhaps her father was rashe kol
and my mother got the sides of the family wrong.

Another is
that Fulop was related to Joseph Bach (1784-1866), an important Talmud
teacher from Old Buda. He was the first preacher of the Jewish
community of Pest, and the first to preach sermons in German rather
than Yiddish.

In any event, this was the marriage of two members
of Budapest’s rising Jewish middle class. The evidence is that Dr.
Mayer Kayserling married them at the Dohány Temple.

“Jewish
Budapest: Monuments, Rites, History” (Central
European University Press, 1999), explains that the Dohány Temple,
which had been consecrated in 1859, a year after Hatschek’s birth, was
symbolic of the rise and self-importance of Pest’s Jewish community and
their intention to be fully integrated members of the Hungarian nation.
The Dohány is a magnificent Moorish-style edifice that can hold 3,000
visitors, where Budapest’s version of Reform Judaism, called Neolog,
was observed. Although the Dohány had a rabbi, Samuel Kohn, who
delivered sermons in Hungarian, they also had Kayserling, who joined
the temple in 1879 and was a German Jewish scholar. As subjects of the
Austro-Hungarian Empire, the majority of the congregation still
preferred their sermons in German. Kayserling remained with the Dohány
until his death in 1905 — long enough to see Hatschek Bela in his
automobile.

The
documents reveal that both Bela and his father, Max, were opticians, a
fact that intrigued me. Turning
again to “Jewish Budapest,” I learned that one of the important early
prominent figures in Budapest’s Jewish history is Ignac Hirschler
(1823-1891), a famous ophthalmologist. He was elected president of the
Hungarian Jewish Congress in 1868-1869, was a member of the Hungarian
Academy of Sciences, as well as a member of Hungary’s Upper House of
Government and president of the Jewish community.

What
direct or indirect influence Hirschler had on the Hatschek family is
not known. But I wonder if it is just a coincidence that Max and Bela
were opticians, too? Could they be related? Could Hatschek be a
Hungarian (Magyarized) version of Hirschler? These are all questions I
hope to further research one day.

Regardless, Hatschek Bela was
not an eye doctor as much as a businessman. His stationery, a copy of
which was sent to me by Hungarian journalist Pal Negyesi, indicates
that he owned the “first Hungarian glass eye factory.”
hatschek2.jpg
Although
this may sound a
bit odd today, eye injuries and lost eyes were much more common in the
age of the sword fight, particularly before eye surgery and repair
became more sophisticated. It was also an enterprise in which artistry
was valued.

My
mother recalled being taken to her grandfather’s factory, which her
Uncle Hugo ran. A sign with a giant eye hung outside, and my mother
recalls finding it frightening — and memorable.

I also
discovered that Hatschek Bela, or at least his factory, also made
ocular equipment, such as binoculars. About three years ago, I received
an e-mail out of the blue from a man who had purchased a pair on eBay.
Upon Googling “Hatschek Bela” he had come across an article I had
written and e-mailed me to ask for further details.
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While
writing this article, I decided to e-mail the man, and ask if he would
consider selling me the binoculars. I can report that I am now the
proud owner of a pair of World War I-era binoculars. They work, and
they
came with leather case lined with red silk. Stamped on the case’s cover
in bold gold letters is “Hatschek Bela,” along with the address of his
company store, located at 2 Vaci Utca (Budapest’s most elegant shopping
street — akin to Rodeo Drive or Fifth Avenue).

Hatschek
Bela died on Oct. 23, 1922 (his wife, Gizella Hatschek, died five years
later). He had two children, Adrienne (my grandmother), born in 1892,
and Hugo, born in 1895. He lived long enough to see Adrienne appear on
stage, see her marry and to see his grandchild, Eva (my mother). He
lived long enough to see Hugo become an optician and to know that his
son would carry on his business. Adrienne lived in the family home and
factory at 4 Munkas St. until her own marriage in 1915; Hugo continued
to live there until it was taken over by the German SS in 1944.

In
2003, when I visited Budapest, I discovered that — in the records of
the Jewish Community Center at 12 Sip Utca — Hatschek Bela and
Gizella are listed as having been buried at the Kozma Street Jewish
cemetery. However, when I visited the cemetery, I could not find their
graves. Someone suggested that perhaps someone else had been buried
above them. That, too, is a mystery I hope to solve one day (I did find
Hugo’s grave in the Kozma Street cemetery).

At
the same time, I also discovered that my great-great-grandmother,
Jeannette Reitzer, Hatschek’s mother-in-law, was born in 1849 in
Altofen (Old Buda) and died in 1891 in Budapest. Like Dr. Kayserling
and other members of the 19th century Budapest bourgeoisie, she is
buried in the Salgótarjáni Utca Cemetery. When I visited the cemetery
in 2003, I found her grave marker — a striking black obelisk.

To
be able to trace my family’s roots in Budapest back to 1849 was very
meaningful. To imagine where their lives played out across centuries,
to walk down those streets, to see buildings and synagogues and to be
able to say
my family walked these streets, my family members lived here, they were
married in this place and buried here, it gives one a feeling that is
larger than one’s self — a connection between present and past, a
feeling of history.

As
for Hatschek Bela owning Hungary’s first automobile, Pal Negyesi, a
Hungarian freelance journalist who writes about automobile history,
published an article in 2007 that tried to find a definitive answer to
who had the first car in history. He could not confirm anything.

As
part of my own research, I e-mailed the picture of my great-grandfather
in the Benz to Mercedes’ own historians in Germany. They confirmed that
it was a 1894 “Velo.”

According to their records, in 1894 Benz
launched the Velociped model — nicknamed Velo — a light vehicle that
takes its place in history as the first small car and the first
series-automobile in the world. The Velo had an engine that produced
1.5 horsepower at 450 revolutions per
minute (according to their records, the engine’s performance could be
improved to 3.5 horsepower at 800 revolutions per minute). The Velo
cost 2,000 marks in 1894.

However,
Mercedes had no records of Hatschek Bela purchasing a Velo. Their
records do indicate that in 1896, a year after the picture was taken, a
Benz No. 375 was delivered to Hungary. No recipient is listed.

However,
as our family lore has it, Hatschek traveled out of the country and
returned with the car. Negyesi in his research turns up newspaper
accounts from 1921 and 1967 anointing Hatschek as the first Hungarian
automobilist, stating that “Hatschek learnt to drive a bit in Mannheim,
Germany and Benz dispatched a ‘ driver’ to Budapest, in order to help
Hatschek learn how to properly drive and maintain his car.”

This
sounds very close to what I heard as a child and also leaves open the
possibility that Hatschek purchased his car abroad from a dealer or a
private party and then
brought it home.

One can certainly question who had the first
car, but there is no doubt that Hatschek owned a Benz Velo, and that
alone was a pretty remarkable occurrence at that time for anyone — but
certainly for a Jewish citizen of Hungary (although who knows, he may
have been dismissed by some as just another of the “nouveau riche”
Jewish merchants corrupting Hungary with new ideas).

For me, I
look at the picture of Hatschek Bela sitting in his Benz, his calm
authority, his debonair charm, his comfort in being modern, his style,
and imagine all that as part of my DNA.

Then, as if by magic, it happens again: I start to smile.

Tom
Teicholz is a film producer in Los Angeles. Everywhere else, he’s an
author and journalist who has written for The New York Times Sunday
Magazine, Interview and The Forward. His column appears every other
week.

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